Brent has another question.......

[AirportFF]

He wants to know how come women don't seem to like laid back, nice guys?

Maybe Susan will step in here and find his personal ad we did for him.....

[Shadow]

He wants to know how come women don't seem to like laid back, nice guys?

Maybe Susan will step in here and find his personal ad we did for him.....Probably because we are percieved as passive and not able to take control of a situation. Percieved as having no backbone, percieved as just being a wuss. I find more strength in people who can put to rest all the macho bullshit, be laid back and just be nice. I find no usefullness in a hyperactive crybaby that needs to get in everyones face for the sake of boosting his own ego and illusion of actually being in control.
Perception is reality to most people,so the quite laid back guys are percived as complete spineless wuss and the ladies don't want to play mama.

Susan, am I close?

[SmokeShowin]

Probably because we are percieved as passive and not able to take control of a situation. Percieved as having no backbone, percieved as just being a wuss. I find more strength in people who can put to rest all the macho bullshit, be laid back and just be nice. I find no usefullness in a hyperactive crybaby that needs to get in everyones face for the sake of boosting his own ego and illusion of actually being in control.
Perception is reality to most people,so the quite laid back guys are percived as complete spineless wuss and the ladies don't want to play mama.

Susan, am I close?

Who you calling a crybaby, why I oughta! :Mr-T:

J/K My friend Wayne used to describe guys like that perfectly - TOO MUCH DRAMA!

[AirportFF]

ahem..........I do believe that the question he had was aimed at the ladies. :wink_2:

[Shadow]

ahem..........I do believe that the question he had was aimed at the ladies. :wink_2:Sorry, I am one of the nice guys and still have smoldering issues.... nice vent tho... LOL

[Wicked Wanda]

It all boils down to that woman's confidence in herself...

IMHO, most laid-back guys will be content sit back and observe, especially in a situation with new people. A woman who isn't sure of herself will be ill at ease and will most likely come off as b!tchy because he has her off-balance. The macho types are too easy to read...

Being laid-back is not a bad thing if you're not coming across as "lazy".

Do the usual:
- Smile
- Eye contact
- Flirt & be friendly
- Dress decently (women love men in plain white (or black) t-shirts & snug jeans)
- Smell nice (BUT please don't smell like you soaked in a vat of cologne)

You already have the "bad boy" image down - women are naturally attracted to bikers...

If you do all the above and she's not interested, she's not worth your time.

You gotta keep them guessing...romance isn't hard but it works...

WW

[FFsLady]

lots of good points. Shadow, you're pretty on the ball there! Wanda, Mmmmm tshirt and jeans.....yummy. :happy:

[AirportFF]

You already have the "bad boy" image down - women are naturally attracted to bikers...



WW


He's not a biker, he works with me at the Firehouse. We call him "the angry beaver" I don't know why he said laid back, he's wound tighter than anyone I've ever met. But like Susan said in the other post, he's my best friend, and I'd do anything I could for him.


and before anyone makes a smartass remark.....WE'RE NOT GAY!! :no:

[Mr.Sinister]

I thought cool guys where laid back ? I would not describe myself as " laid back " and I do very well with the ladies . I got the whole badboy thing going with the tatoos , muscles and the bike . I wish I could be laid back . Unfortunatly , I have the energy level of a caged wild animal . Shadow is the kind of guy that would make a woman feel safe . In a good way . He is big and smiles alot . Prone to laughing and does not act like a tough guy . I think he would come across as a healthier [ mentaly ] person and do resonably well if he where single . Even tho I am married I still get women who want to save/fix me all the time ?

[Wicked Wanda]

He's not a biker, he works with me at the Firehouse. We call him "the angry beaver" I don't know why he said laid back, he's wound tighter than anyone I've ever met. But like Susan said in the other post, he's my best friend, and I'd do anything I could for him.


and before anyone makes a smartass remark.....WE'RE NOT GAY!! :no:

Angry Beaver?! LMAO, which one is he? Norbert or Daggett?

Not a biker?! hmmmmm....I hope you're working on that with him...either way, he's a guy in uniform - next best thang.

Gay-dar ain't going off here... :shocked2: Just don't grab my hubby's ass now ya' hear? :devilish:

[Wicked Wanda]

Even tho I am married I still get women who want to save/fix me all the time ?

I have the same thing happen with men...okay and a few women too :uhoh: ! What is it with folks? I stopped at the grocery after work a couple of Friday nights ago - won't do that again. Attention Shoppers: Horny guy in the frozen food section!

Jeez...

Stopped at Lowe's with the hubby last Monday to pick up plumbing stuff (we had a leaky faucet). I'm walking out of the women's restroom and some guy blocks my way, trying to be suave, and does the "Hi, how You doin'?" Puh-lease...

[Shadow]

Shadow is the kind of guy that would make a woman feel safe . In a good way . He is big and smiles alot . Prone to laughing and does not act like a tough guy . I think he would come across as a healthier [ mentaly ] person and do resonably well if he where single.Thanks man! :cheers:
I could have used you as my agent when I was younger and trying to pick up girls! :laugh:

[M@Man]

Stopped at Lowe's with the hubby last Monday to pick up plumbing stuff (we had a leaky faucet). I'm walking out of the women's restroom and some guy blocks my way, trying to be suave, and does the "Hi, how You doin'?" Puh-lease...

That was you!?!?:eek2: j/k


No, really, I've always been sure of myself as far as who I am and the person I've want to be. I think that helped as far as Jeannie was concerned, plus the fact that I try to get to know a woman's personality first. It sounds korny but I think women apreciate the friends first thing. Don't get me wrong, I'm far from perfect, I do factor in the hotness of a woman first before approaching them (yes I have some piggish traits but I'm willing to live with that and so is Jeannie...thank God! :laugh4: )

Maybe C@Woman will get on here and give her .02 worth. (hint, hint...you haven't posted in a while, just reading the posts doesn't count. :wink_2: )

M@

[AirportFF]

Thanks man! :cheers:
I could have used you as my agent when I was younger and trying to pick up girls! :laugh:



BTW How was the convention in Vegas??? :wink_2:

[Shadow]

BTW How was the convention in Vegas??? :wink_2:It was jusss sassy! :wink_2:

[Mr.Sinister]

Was'nt FF a keynote speaker ? Shameless , Fishing for complaments at your age . :biggrinje

[Shadow]

Was'nt FF a keynote speaker ? Shameless , Fishing for complaments at your age . :biggrinjeLMAO!! :biker:

[Wicked Wanda]

That was you!?!?:eek2: j/k

M@

You damn perv! :stunned: :laugh3:

I have to admit, there have been times that I didn't know exactly what I wanted...I got married young (19) and more or less grew up with the hubby. Don't regret it one ounce but we had our fair share of rocky roads over the past 19 years...

I have to say, now that I'm approaching (ahem) the big 4-0 next year, I'm finally really comfy in my skin and with who I am. I think that's what draws people....that confidence (some say power) is an attractant.

Although, I think what attracted Bones (hubby) to me was watching me walk down the hallway in high school... :bootyshak

[Shadow]

You damn perv! :stunned: :laugh3:

I have to admit, there have been times that I didn't know exactly what I wanted...I got married young (19) and more or less grew up with the hubby. Don't regret it one ounce but we had our fair share of rocky roads over the past 19 years...

I have to say, now that I'm approaching (ahem) the big 4-0 next year, I'm finally really comfy in my skin and with who I am. I think that's what draws people....that confidence (some say power) is an attractant.

Although, I think what attracted Bones (hubby) to me was watching me walk down the hallway in high school... :bootyshakCongrats!
Sounds like me and my wife. We met in High School, she was 14 and I was 17.
We dated for 4 years until she graduated in June, married that November and our first child that next year. We have been blessed for the entire marriage.
I don't recommend getting married that young, but it was the right thing for us. I turned the big 4-0 this year and would do it all over again if given the chance.
MMmmmmMmmm, High School hallway......:wink_2:

[M@Man]

Congrats to you both! :luxhello: :luxhello:

My kids mother (Dawn) and I were young too but she was my second wife, she passed away a few years ago complications from a siezure disorder. Luckily Jeannie was by my side through it all, her, Dawn and I were friends for a long time. Anyway I'm on #3 and she is my last, I guess for me it's true...Three's a charm. :grin:
I've never been the type to come on strong, hell a woman practically has to hit me on the head with a hammer before I know she's interested (infact some have :laugh4: )
Jeannie pinned me to a wall and kissed me, that's how I found out she was attracted to me. She's not the aggresive type but after so many years of bein' best friends I guess she got tired of waitin' for me to make the first move. :dunno:

M@

[M@Man]

Oh yeah! I almost forgot to mention this...
I do remember the first words Jeannie spoke to me when we first met "I can load my own pockets, thank-you."
We both worked at a printing company loading pockets on a machine, and I (being the nice guy that I am) tried to help her out. :wink_2:
That was many moons ago, and we've been best friends ever since.

M@

[C@Woman]

Congrats to you both! :luxhello: :luxhello:

My kids mother (Dawn) and I were young too but she was my second wife, she passed away a few years ago complications from a siezure disorder. Luckily Jeannie was by my side through it all, her, Dawn and I were friends for a long time. Anyway I'm on #3 and she is my last, I guess for me it's true...Three's a charm. :grin:
I've never been the type to come on strong, hell a woman practically has to hit me on the head with a hammer before I know she's interested (infact some have :laugh4: )
Jeannie pinned me to a wall and kissed me, that's how I found out she was attracted to me. She's not the aggresive type but after so many years of bein' best friends I guess she got tired of waitin' for me to make the first move. :dunno:

M@
Whew, where do I start... Yeah that was me pinning M@Man to a wall, I pushed his shouldres against the wall & layed a big one on him, :lips2: I don't know what came over me I just had to do it! M@ & I worked together, that's how we met. We hit it off & became fast friends but that's all it was for about 10 years. He was married, I was married & we were good friends. He was there for me as my marriage deteriorated & I was there for him when his wife passed away. He had given me slight indications that he was interested but I never took him seriously, he was "safe" to me & I guess I thought if you cross that line you couldn't go back & I feared if I did I would loose my good friend. Then one day curiosity over came me & I decided to let him know that there was a spark of interest in me by laying one on him. He was @ band practice & I told him that I had to tell him something, when he came down stairs to see what was up I kissed him & left & didn't see or talk to him again for a couple of days. Not sure what was going on in my head now that I look back but I do know that I was scared of loosing my friend b/c I had now crossed the line. So long story short, I'm in love with my best friend! :love: What has attracted me most to him are his kindness, charm &, self confidence. My advice to Brent is to keep it real, say what's on your mind and, go with your heart.

[AirportFF]

It was jusss sassy! :wink_2:
LOLOLOL :happy: :assbeat:

[RustyJake]

He was @ band practice & I told him that I had to tell him something,......
Then, one time, at band camp......
Sorry, couldn't resist. I hope I didn't ruin the heart felt story of your relationship. It's great when you can be with someone who is actually your best friend!

[C@Woman]

:laugh3: Then, one time, at band camp......
Sorry, couldn't resist. I hope I didn't ruin the heart felt story of your relationship. It's great when you can be with someone who is actually your best friend!

No, I'm glad you said something b/c now we can get this out on the table for M@Man.....
Friends shouldn't let friends post drunk! :cheers: Yeah, I know RustyJake, it was late & I was buzzed :laugh3: what can I say?

And I actually did go to band camp but that's another story. LOL!