wife troubles

[ct.russ]

let me start by saying thank you for this out let . really dont know where else to turn .. me and the wife have had this same argument since the start of out relationship , goin on 4 years now .. im 40 . i meet her on line .. i told her i was glad i had meet her on line as i was able to fall in love with her mind , her thoughts,her dreams and this was better because i got to know the inside before i had seen and judge the outside .. so heres the problem .. i was honest when she asked why i had felt the way i did .. i told her she was average looking , and that if i had simply seen her on the street , she wouldnt have made my head turn .. but i was glad to have meet her the way i did because in my view it made the relationship more pure , if you will, as i wasnt attracted to her physically first ..shes not a super model 10 nor is she cyottee ugly 3 .. and she acknowledges that ..shes in between , witch makes her average in my book .. she asks if i think shes beautiful .. i tell her im attracted to her im not ashamed of her one bit .. we do pda often . i love her etc . i know i could says shes beautiful but im certain she wont believe that and it will cause more rift .. what the hell do i do .. im sure shes pained by this as its been following us around a while now .. i dont know how much shes affected by this day to day .. but i do feel she has a level of resentment towards me for it .this doesnt come up every day or anything like that .. but it does rear its ugly head from time to time ..i dont want to belittle her feelings but we've been through so much crap this is small to me but still cant seem to be beaten .. i dont shame her looks .. i dont compare to others . i dont drool over the eye candy thats 1/2 my age .. i tell her im happy with her appearance .. i know shes in pain too but will i also have to pay for my truth full ness for the rest of this relationship ?? just wish i could make her see .. yu know i have to be desperate if im turning here .. any ideas?? .. any other similar experience's ?? thanks russ ...

[YO MUDA]

Well, Im not Wanda but dude, ARE YOU FUCKIN CRAZY!! You dont tell your woman shes average lookin, shit, even if shes a dog.

[firefighter212]

gotta go with Mudda on this one.Women are verbal or vocal.Weather it`s what they are sayin or hearing.It`s like the he said,she heard thing.You say she`s average but she hears that she is ugly.Dude,honesty is important in a relationship but your cuttin off your nose despite your face.know when to be truthfully honest and when to Honest.

[fegs]

Dude, you're in a heep of shit now...

[Beaker]

Well, Im not Wanda but dude, ARE YOU FUCKIN CRAZY!! You dont tell your woman shes average lookin, shit, even if shes a dog.

:lol: That is the funniest shit I've heard in a loooong time! Plus, it's true! You're done for now anyway, so dump her and find a high maintenance bimbette. I always tell my wife, "I've got a trophy wife. Not first prize, but a trophy none-the-less". Damn Muda, my cheeks hurt from laughing....Classic!

[Titanium2006]

shit dude, you've really done it....

Compliment, compliment and compliment some more.....

Give a few bucks, send her to the salon - tell her she looks hot in her new hair do and make sweet love......repeat for say 5 - 10 years and you should be golden....

Don't drop the ball next time!

[Beaker]

Or, just knock her up. After the baby is born, she won't care about your opinion, what she looks likes, nothing, but the baby. This is good because it lasts for YEARS. Only drawback for you will be the lack of action from her because she'll be afraid you'll do it again to her. That's okay though, because that's why there's sports on TV, internet porn, motorcycles, etc. It's a win/win.

[Kycop34]

Dude you are in one hellofa mess!!!!! Good Luck and i have no advice because i usually stay in the shithouse myself most of the time....lol

[mcvierh]

You gotta be fucking kidding ct.russ, I'd be willing to bet you look like a fresh turd laying in the gutter in a rain storm, and then have the nerve to disrespect this lady about "Looks." And this after you led her on through this heart/affection winning internet affair, talking about falling in love with her mind, her thoughts, her dreams.....your a douch bag in my book, you fucking noob turd. I don't give a fuck if she's butt ugly, your uglier.......

[RestlessSpirit]

The eyes see what the heart wants them to.

[morpheus]

yea and you probably call her a "cunt" or stupid fuck behind her back
want the fuck is wrong with you.no self-respecting man would say that shit to his wife.if you havent learned by now -you dont fuckin deserve a wife.perhaps a goat or a sheep.may as well slamm that dick in a window seal;you'll probably never get to use it again:pissed:

[ct.russ]

thanks too all for the most part .. i agree that i missed the boat on this one .. but 1. it was 4 years ago but admittedly and apparently still fresh to her 2. she wasnt a wife yet .. apparently i did "somethings right " just figured if she knew she wasnt super model beautiful she would see through the lies ..i was afraid it would question further creditability down the road .wouldnt it be the same if she burnt the hell out of the meat loaf , youre gaging ,tears rolling down youre face .. and she asks if everything's ok .. i passed the does this dress make me look fat routine ..i dont have a problem with weight .. im heaver than i should be ... if they have to ask they must have an inkling .. i didnt blow smoke up her ass with her hart and dreams ,, i said it in earnest just back fired .. and no i wont leave her and start over with another for this .. i do love her and want it to work .. may be ill show her this fourm shell believe and forgive .. i dont know .. just banging my head against the wall ..

[morpheus]

dont fuckin EVER send me a PM like that again
your the FUCKIN NOOB that wanted EVERYONE'S opinon

you fuckin cant take the heat-get the fuck out of the house you worthless piece of shit(thanks Mac)

[Beaker]

If you got a woman to love you, over the internet, with that spelling, count your blessings. My only question is, are BOTH of you now living in your parents' basement at 40yrs old? What a world we live in...

[RestlessSpirit]

Imagine what it would do to your self esteem if she told you that your penis was "average". I'm pretty sure if she'd say to you that you were a monster, you'd know she was lying but you wouldn't argue. Just a thought.

[Farther]

I guess you found out the hard way that women never forget. I have been married for 31 years and my spouse remembers every fart, every real or imagined slight over that period of time.

[Beaker]

I don't think he's "average". After all, it took him 36yrs to finally hook up, and he did it on ebay. I don't think (or hope) thats average. Can't really be surprised that he screwed up...

[YO MUDA]

Married 31 years here too Farther. We must be the lucky ones.:thumbsup:

[ct.russ]

31 years yes you both are lucky and dedicated .. for some it dont work out that way .. morph i dont know man i pm you behind the lines out of respect .. with imo you didnt deserve from me .. i didnt attack you .. becuse i dont know you .. yes i did ask youre opinion not youre judgement .. beaker no i we dont live in a basement we do own our own home .. well the bank lets us believe its ours ... so all youre friends are spelling majors ?? here in the us Internet dating is real and works for some . i just wish some not so perfect spelling , internet dating forum users pass judgement on you as you have done to me ..restless youre right sir .. thank you i didnt look at it from that angle .. i was too busy trying to make a sensible complement to think about the after math .. i just figured we were both sensible adults and with explanation it would make sense and not go on this long .. but you are right i would have seen past the fib and gone on better than being shot in the foot ..

[mcvierh]

Man you reap what you sow.......

[YO MUDA]

If I were you, and im not, If you really want this relationship, you should smother her with kindness and gifts, women love gifts. Take her out to a nice restuant and pamper her. No im not Dr Phil, but I did stay at a Holiday Inn once.

P.S. If my spelling affends, its because I was schooled in okieHOMER.:good life

[rocksolid]

Damn, dude, give her a break! There is something about every woman that looks good. Nobody is flawless. You never tell a woman that she's not a knock-out. Especially your wife! My definition of a beautiful woman is one that is willing to be seen in public with ME! If she asks how she looks, she wants to hear that she beautiful. Nothing less. Man, you have lots of flowers to buy, and a ton of compliments about everything that's special about her. You hurt her in her most vulnerable area. Her looks. That's not subject to analysis. It's about being attractive and at least as pretty as any other woman she might be compared to.
Tell her truthfully that she's cute, has a great body, fantastic eyes, or whatever else. No B.S. You just never mention less than perfect parts. If she asks about those, then you say you like them, and mean it. She's counting on you! Be thankful for what you have. Most women would have told you to take a hike!

[ct.russ]

thanks muda for being real .. and i have done just that and continue to do it .. yes she is attractive and i told her so .. i also love her smile and the way her hair lays .. silly things i know and theirs more . i keep telling her that .. but yes i agree with you both .. i didnt dog her . i didnt pick her apart .. but yes i screwed up ..

[firefighter212]

Well brother,your gonna be living with that one for a while.You just need to forget(she won`t and keep it in the back of your mind)Your gonna need to express and tell her the things you just told us.And i don`t mean to get up from the computer and tell her now.Give her a phone call or text in the middle of the day and tell her what you feel.Just make it short,sweet and to the point.That will be more effective than to keep apologizing.

[YO MUDA]

Wandas gonna kick our ass when she sees we invated her space.:stunned:

[919jackass]

Damn, dude, give her a break! There is something about every woman that looks good. Nobody is flawless. You never tell a woman that she's not a knock-out. Especially your wife! My definition of a beautiful woman is one that is willing to be seen in public with ME! If she asks how she looks, she wants to hear that she beautiful. Nothing less. Man, you have lots of flowers to buy, and a ton of compliments about everything that's special about her. You hurt her in her most vulnerable area. Her looks. That's not subject to analysis. It's about being attractive and at least as pretty as any other woman she might be compared to.
Tell her truthfully that she's cute, has a great body, fantastic eyes, or whatever else. No B.S. You just never mention less than perfect parts. If she asks about those, then you say you like them, and mean it. She's counting on you! Be thankful for what you have. Most women would have told you to take a hike!


dude he's right it's the little things and i mean the smallest things that women like. open her car door, take her out to eat and pull the chair out for her and push it in. especially in public you have to be the GENTLEMEN even throw in some yes mam's and shit. my personal fav send her some flowers at work with a card that reads "just think'n about you" or "guess who" . ok you out 30 - 40 bucks but so what she will be estatic when she sees you. or on another day when she comes home from work ask her if you can rub her back say you look like you've had a rough day and just do it and mean it , not like after sex when you hold her and pertend like you care. be a ladies man, be her man, and she will melt. act like the world revovles around her emotionally. remember it's the LITTLE things that make a big differance it there world's

shit i sound like a day time talk show host what is this a touchly feely thread.

good luck bro :thumbsup:

[morpheus]

31 years yes you both are lucky and dedicated .. for some it dont work out that way .. morph i dont know man i pm you behind the lines out of respect .. with imo you didnt deserve from me .. i didnt attack you .. becuse i dont know you .. yes i did ask youre opinion not youre judgement .. beaker no i we dont live in a basement we do own our own home .. well the bank lets us believe its ours ... so all youre friends are spelling majors ?? here in the us Internet dating is real and works for some . i just wish some not so perfect spelling , internet dating forum users pass judgement on you as you have done to me ..restless youre right sir .. thank you i didnt look at it from that angle .. i was too busy trying to make a sensible complement to think about the after math .. i just figured we were both sensible adults and with explanation it would make sense and not go on this long .. but you are right i would have seen past the fib and gone on better than being shot in the foot ..

MAN YOU DONT KNOW WHAT THE WORD respect MEANS.IF YOU DID YOU WOULD NOT BE IN THE TROUBLE YOU ARE WITH YOUR WIFE.AS FAR AS THE PM'S;AS ANYONE HERE WILL TELL YA -WE ARE ALL BROTHERS-WE HOLD no SECRETS.YOU WANT TO GET IN MY FACE -YOU DO IT WERE EVERYONE CAN SEE.YOUR A noob AND AS SUCH YOU HAVE ALOT TO LEARN ABOUT ME AND MY FELLOW BROTHERS.RESPECT COMES WITH TIME-YOU KEEP THAT SHIT UP YOUR TIME IN THIS FORUM WILL BE SHORT -THEY WILL EAT YOU ALIVE!

YEA AND BY THE WAY-WELCOME TO THE RIDE noob!!!

[knucklehead]

I can tell you first hand, you can't do 1 thing to make this go away cause she will NEVER forget I promise you. Just like everybody else has said, IT'S THE LITTLE THINGS! It talks a whole lot of little things.

GOOD LUCK BRO!

[Beaker]

Genetically, they forget NOTHING:

http://images1.cafepress.com/product/366073041v3_350x350_Front.jpg

[4jranch]

The only way you might be able to get past this is first to convinve yourself she is beautiful. No qualifiers. Not just her hair or her smile the whole package and each and every part. Then tell her everyday until she knows that you really believe it and keep telling her............

[TI 3VOM]

My wife and I were having a 'disagreement' one day and she started in about her fat ass. Her words, not mine. She kept going on about it and I guess I had heard it toomany times because I let it slip, ' Honey, I love your fat ass.' The minute it came out, I stopped, dumb founded. I still hear about that one, 8 years later. Luckily my wife is a one of a kind and took it in stride, probably because I complimented it many times before.

As said, every woman has killer parts, whether it is her ass, tits or legs. Compliment those first because she can/will believe you. If you start telling her she is the hottest thing on earth, you are fucked. Then move on to other parts.....

Do NOT tell her "Beauty is only a light switch away." That NEVER goes over well......

[Beaker]

Or, just get two paper bags: one for you in case hers falls off.

[TI 3VOM]

Or, just get two paper bags: one for you in case hers falls off.

Paper in plastic works great. The paper stops her from suffocating and the plastic, you can loop over her arms to keep it from falling off. :lol:

[Beaker]

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: Sounds like the voice of experience!! LMAO!!

[Swilly]

Boy, you really fucked the dog on this one.

You might as well drop the word "average" from your vocabulary. Every time you use it you'll get "that" look.

After 18 years, I still can't say "stupid idea".:heh_heh:

Swilly

[malhavic]

dude dont you love your wife????? if you did she would be a super model to you.
I've been with my wife for 21 yrs and she is still beautiful to me just like the day we first met. you got some learning to do.

[Vicious1]

Dude, WTF?!?! Isn't beauty what's on the inside and out combined? My wife isn't the same woman I married in appearance, but she's still gorgeous. She's gained curves, but that makes it so much better. If you're into her, that's all that should matter. Average? I'd never marry an average woman. I'd date one, and I'd hit it (that's not saying much considering who I am), but I'd never marry one!

[Beaker]

Beauty is in the eye of the Beer-Holder.

[YO MUDA]

:lol: :lol: :lol: Beaker you kill me. LoL

[TI 3VOM]

http://cdn2.myxer.com/tn/c/936087/big/?t=20081219201010

[Beaker]

My next wife is gonna be a deaf, dumb, ORPHAN, nymphomaniac, millionaire, who also owns a liquor store.

[Wicked Wanda]

My next wife is gonna be a deaf, dumb, ORPHAN, nymphomaniac, millionaire, who also owns a liquor store.

DAMN! I don't own a liquor store.... :lol:

[Wicked Wanda]

First of all, let me apologize for not being out here and thanks to you all for picking up the slack (it's all kewl Yo M :cool4: ). I've been going through my own version of hell the past few months, got layed off, had trouble finding work, did find a temporary (to me) position that I hated and finally locked in a position I did want with Ohio State University Medical Center. I start there on Monday....enough about me.

Dude! OMG, thank God I'm not married to you. :brood: Like the guys have all stated, you have got to rethink how you are communicating with your WIFE. You say you love her but yet you judge her looks. Yes, you are judging her. So, are you above reproach? Are you the perfect male specimen? Are you in love with your own self? Just how long does it take you to get ready in the morning? :stunned:

IMHO, you need to get down on your knees and apologize to this woman. Beg for forgiveness for your stupidity and hope that she loves you enough to do so. If it were me, I'd be walking and leaving your sorry ass to find a man who truly appreciates me...

I've been married for 24 years. We've had our unintelligent moments but NEVER would I judge my husband's physical appearance. I love him for who he is, unconditionally..

[knucklehead]

My wife and I were having a 'disagreement' one day and she started in about her fat ass. Her words, not mine. She kept going on about it and I guess I had heard it toomany times because I let it slip, ' Honey, I love your fat ass.' The minute it came out, I stopped, dumb founded. I still hear about that one, 8 years later. Luckily my wife is a one of a kind and took it in stride, probably because I complimented it many times before.

As said, every woman has killer parts, whether it is her ass, tits or legs. Compliment those first because she can/will believe you. If you start telling her she is the hottest thing on earth, you are fucked. Then move on to other parts.....

Do NOT tell her "Beauty is only a light switch away." That NEVER goes over well......

The last two weeks of your deployment to Iraq you have to start reminding yourself they are all one plane ride from being ugly again!

[knucklehead]

My next wife is gonna be a deaf, dumb, ORPHAN, nymphomaniac, millionaire, who also owns a liquor store.

With a flat spot on her head so I can rest my beer.

Beak, I hope you are refering to the song.

[Beaker]

With a flat spot on her head so I can rest my beer.

Beak, I hope you are refering to the song.

Just a personal goal. There's a song? Hmm.

[apache driver]

See! this is the kind of shit you can't learn living in Mom's basement and playing video games at forty years old!!
You gotta get out and learn how to talk to women!

[billace]

See! this is the kind of shit you can't learn living in Mom's basement and playing video games at forty years old!!
You gotta get out and learn how to talk to women! wait.... I can't play video games anymore? can I play till I'm 40? Is it okay to still play cuz my wife plays? Or is it all good cuz I moved out when I was 17 and can actually talk to my wife? just razzin' you bro!!

[bsa_bob]

Man------I hope you guys aren't taking Wanda to seriously.SShe seems to be on the women side.

[Beaker]

Man------I hope you guys aren't taking Wanda to seriously.SShe seems to be on the women side.

Which side did you think she was gonna be on? Besides, I think we're all on the woman's side of this one. Maybe you should hook up with Mr. Average. Same typing...

[mcvierh]

I can't fucking believe that B.S. Bob's response. I'm pretty sure he even looks like a douche bag.

[Beaker]

Unfortunately, given the past stupidity he has uttered, I'm not surprised. You're likely right, I also bet he looks like a douche bag.

[mcvierh]

Bet his road name's "The Kotex Kid"
I should feel bad for my remarks, but I don't.

[Beaker]

Ha! Probably! You know, more and more I realize, there are people who, as children, were probably picked on too much. On the other hand, there sure are alot of "adults" who could use the smack in the yap that nobody ever bothered to give them. I think he falls into the latter category.

[mcvierh]

Ha! Probably! You know, more and more I realize, there are people who, as children, were probably picked on too much. On the other hand, there sure are alot of "adults" who could use the smack in the yap that nobody ever bothered to give them. I think he falls into the latter category.

So true so true, thats the best laugh I've had for weeks, thanks once again Beaker.....

[Beaker]

Just an observation my friend. It seems that lately one can't turn around without bumping into some inconsiderate prick who needs to be taught some manners. Sad really.

[919jackass]

hay bs bob
did you even read the first 4 pages before posting ???????????
on the other hand never mind you can go disapear for another couple of months

[apache driver]

HAH!! This has got to be a record, it only took one post for Bob to show his ass and get his shit jumped again! so long for another six months.

[Swilly]

Ha! Probably! You know, more and more I realize, there are people who, as children, were probably picked on too much. On the other hand, there sure are alot of "adults" who could use the smack in the yap that nobody ever bothered to give them. I think he falls into the latter category.

Bobs Mom feeding his brother.

http://photos.imageevent.com/ben_dover/truck/websize/momsfavorite%20_2_.jpg

Swilly

[firefighter212]

Tigers don`t change their stripes is all i can say bout that one.

[ubudog2005]

my take on this is that he really screwed up BIG! but, it is nice to say i love you for who you are, not how you look. but for god's sake, don't ever say a woman is average. i as a dude, am average. not great looking by anyone's standards, not horrible either. as i am guessing she is not a knock-out, but not horrible either.

my suggestion is to start doing the little things and never bring up this conversation with her again. send flowers for no reason, send a text to her phone saying, "i love you". leave her a note some place where she will find it saying how much you love her. reminder her when you see her each day after work how much you missed her while you were apart... and most of all, let her know that to you, she is beautiful. let her know that she is perfect to you. let her know she is everything you could have ever dreamed of asking for.

just do the little things and do them often. to women, the little things are what they remember the most. just like you saying she is average, to you it was little. to her it was huge. they remember the little things.

take it on as a personal goal to just sweep her off her feet. looks are all about perception. it is what you perceive. if she is everything you could ever want in a woman, then she is beautiful. there is nothing average about finding a woman who is everything you could have asked for.

oh, by the way, the more you tell a woman she is beautiful the more beautiful she will become. you see, confidence is a very sexy thing. and the more confidence she has in herself, the more beautiful she will seem to you as well as others. an unconfident woman does not see herself as anything attractive in anyway. but that same woman confident, will knock your socks off...

just my .02 well maybe a little more than .02

[northern01]

Tell her she looks so much cuter with something in her mouth! Hey isnt their a song like that? LMAO

[Beaker]

I still say double bag her...

[Lisa]

I am recently single and tried the honest approach.... it didn't go over well. At least in my case I didn't want to stay with the person. In your case you do....so stop posting here and start making up for it :-)

[87 shadow vt]

Well honest is very good. Always be upfront. Always be completely honest! Always always always always always always always always tell her she is the most beautiful woman in the world and you wouldnt trade her for a million dollars. Get it? P.S. its your own dumass fault. Deal with it!

[Beaker]

I still say double bag her...
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[YO MUDA]

Just tell her, Bitch! get your fatass in that kitchen and bake me a pie!

[Beaker]

Ahmen! But: Just tell her, "Bitch! get your average looking fatass in that kitchen and bake me a pie!"
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[Raymo]

With the advice given here Dr. Phil may go out of business.

[ubudog2005]

Ahmen! But: Just tell her, "Bitch! get your average looking fatass in that kitchen and bake me a pie!"
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you forgot, "and take off those damn socks and shoes too!"

[Beaker]

you forgot, "and take off those damn socks and shoes too!"

And, "Put the bag back on! I don't wanna see your average looking face!"

[firefighter212]

I`m over this post,I just wanna see some titties.lol

[Beaker]

http://image59.webshots.com/59/3/30/30/2495330300077999932EnsQVN_ph.jpg

[pittsy]

40 years old and just now figuring this shit out!! I guess you don't know about that rolodex that women keep in there heads,,,,FOREVER.
Famous quote from Rodney Carrington--"Blinggggggg......READ THIS FUCKER!!!!!!"

[pittsy]

40 years old and just now figuring this shit out!! I guess you don't know about that rolodex that women keep in there heads,,,,FOREVER.
Famous quote from Rodney Carrington--"Blinggggggg......READ THIS FUCKER!!!!!!"
THEY NEVER FORGET!!! EVER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[brewit]

.. i agree that i missed the boat on this one .. but 1. it was 4 years ago but admittedly and apparently still fresh to her 2. she wasnt a wife yet .. apparently i did "somethings right " just figured if she knew she wasnt super model beautiful she would see through the lies ..i was afraid it would question further creditability down the road ......

what makes her beautiful is the love you have for her and that is what you need to let her know. say it from the heart. it doesnt get any more credible than that.

[Beaker]

She's beautiful when she's bringing you a beer. She's drop dead gorgeous when she's bringing ME a beer.

[brewit]

she's a super model when i'm looking down at the top of head

[Disorderly]

You will be punished forever for what you've already said. Its ok to lie if you do so in order to keep the peace.

[NOT Restless spirit]

My first post here, guys. And, apparently, stupid me, picked out a member name that was already taken. Sorry. :no:

Anyways, in regards to your wife, yep you kind of blew it. Her feelings are hurt, and now she feels unattractive.

Do everything you can to make her feel like a Princess. Other then that, there isn't much you can do.

Stop being so God damn honest. Lies are good sometimes. Know what I mean, Vern?

[YO MUDA]

That CT Russ fella musta got his balls cut off by his plain ole lady. He aint never come back.

[Beaker]

My first post here, guys. And, apparently, stupid me, picked out a member name that was already taken. Sorry. :no:

Anyways, in regards to your wife, yep you kind of blew it. Her feelings are hurt, and now she feels unattractive.

Do everything you can to make her feel like a Princess. Other then that, there isn't much you can do.

Stop being so God damn honest. Lies are good sometimes. Know what I mean, Vern?

Or, put a bag over her head and tell her to get Beaker a beer. Is this thread really still going????

[NOT Restless spirit]

LOL! If I were him, I think I'd take a really long ride.

Maybe they were able to work things out.

[YO MUDA]

Naw, she cut him.

[NOT Restless spirit]

Cut as in Lorraine Bobbit "Cut?" Hope not!!

[YO MUDA]

I hope so, you fuckin imposter.